Three components
- Intimacy: feelings of closeness and connectedness, the emotional component.
- Passion: physical attraction and sexual drive, the motivational component.
- Decision/commitment: deciding that one loves someone and committing to maintain that love, the cognitive component.
Eight kinds of love
- Non-love (none), liking (intimacy), infatuated love (passion), empty love (commitment)
- Romantic love (intimacy + passion), companionate love (intimacy + commitment), fatuous love (passion + commitment)
- Consummate love (all three)
Change and evaluation
Passion rises and fades quickly, while intimacy and commitment build slowly. Couples whose triangles match tend to be more satisfied. Sternberg built the Triangular Love Scale to measure the components, but critics note they correlate highly and are not fully independent.
References
- Sternberg, R. J. (1986). A triangular theory of love. Psychological Review, 93(2), 119-135.
- Sternberg, R. J. (1997). Construct validation of a triangular love scale. European Journal of Social Psychology, 27(3), 313-335.
- Sternberg, R. J. (1988). The Triangle of Love. Basic Books.