Origins and core claim
Swann (1983) argued that people construct social realities that confirm firmly held self-views. When beliefs about the self are shaken, the basis for predicting the world and interacting with others collapses. People therefore associate with partners who agree with their self-views, attend more to confirming feedback, and remember less or reinterpret information that does not fit. This resembles the consistency drive in cognitive dissonance theory, but it focuses on confirming self-views within social relationships.
Conflict with self-enhancement
Unlike the self-enhancement view that everyone likes praise, self-verification theory predicts that people with negative self-concepts also seek evaluations that match their views. Swann and colleagues (1989) showed that people welcome praise emotionally but judge evaluations consistent with their self-views as more accurate. Swann, Stein-Seroussi and Giesler (1992) reported that people choose self-confirming partners for epistemic reasons, feeling truly known, and pragmatic reasons, smoother interaction. Sedikides (1993) compared motives and concluded that self-enhancement is usually stronger but that self-verification clearly operates.
Relationship research and critiques
Swann, Hixon and De La Ronde (1992) found that people with negative self-concepts were more committed to spouses who viewed them negatively. Swann and colleagues (1994) showed that people want praise when dating but want to be seen as they are in enduring relationships such as marriage. The theory has extended to research on depression, workplace feedback and group identity. Critics note that effects depend heavily on the certainty of self-views and on context. Kwang and Swann (2010) reviewed the evidence and concluded that the self-verification motive is most prominent for firmly held self-views.
FAQ
- What is self-verification theory in simple terms?
- People look for words and people that confirm what they already think of themselves, whether those thoughts are good or bad.
- Don't people prefer praise?
- Emotionally they welcome praise, but the more certain their self-views, the more they find matching evaluations accurate and comfortable.
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References
- Swann, W. B., Jr. (1983). Self-verification: Bringing social reality into harmony with the self. In J. Suls & A. G. Greenwald (Eds.), Psychological Perspectives on the Self (Vol. 2, pp. 33–66). Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum. The founding statement of self-verification theory.
- Swann, W. B., Jr., Pelham, B. W., & Krull, D. S. (1989). Agreeable fancy or disagreeable truth? Reconciling self-enhancement and self-verification. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 57(5), 782–791. Shows how self-enhancement and self-verification coexist.
- Swann, W. B., Jr., Stein-Seroussi, A., & Giesler, R. B. (1992). Why people self-verify. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 62(3), 392–401. Examines epistemic and pragmatic reasons for self-verification.
- Swann, W. B., Jr., Hixon, J. G., & De La Ronde, C. (1992). Embracing the bitter "truth": Negative self-concepts and marital commitment. Psychological Science, 3(2), 118–121. Finds people with negative self-views more committed to spouses who see them negatively.
- Sedikides, C. (1993). Assessment, enhancement, and verification determinants of the self-evaluation process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 65(2), 317–338. Compares assessment, enhancement and verification motives.
- Swann, W. B., Jr., De La Ronde, C., & Hixon, J. G. (1994). Authenticity and positivity strivings in marriage and courtship. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 66(5), 857–869. Shows preferences shift between dating and marriage.
- Kwang, T., & Swann, W. B., Jr. (2010). Do people embrace praise even when they feel unworthy? A review of critical tests of self-enhancement versus self-verification. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 14(3), 263–280. Reviews critical tests of self-enhancement versus self-verification.