Ostracism and four needs
Williams (2001) systematically studied ostracism, treating someone as if they do not exist by not speaking to them or not making eye contact. He argued that ostracism threatens four basic needs: belonging, the need to be part of a group; self-esteem, the need to see oneself as worthy; control, the need to influence one's environment; and meaningful existence, the need to have one's existence acknowledged. The first two are linked to efforts to repair relationships, the latter two to attention-seeking behavior. The framework extends need to belong theory.
Three stages over time
Williams (2009) divided responses into three stages. In the reflexive stage, pain and need threat appear the instant ostracism is detected. Eisenberger and colleagues (2003) reported activity in brain regions linked to physical pain at this point, and Zadro and colleagues (2004) showed that distress occurs even when people are told the ostracizers are computers. In the reflective stage, people appraise the cause and try to restore threatened needs by conforming or ingratiating, or conversely by acting aggressively. The resignation stage follows long-term ostracism, when alienation, depression, helplessness and unworthiness take hold.
Methods and critiques
Williams and colleagues (2000) created Cyberball, a task in which on-screen players toss a ball among themselves and stop passing it to the participant, greatly expanding ostracism research. Hartgerink and colleagues (2015) meta-analyzed 120 Cyberball studies and confirmed that ostracism sharply lowers all four needs. Williams (2007) connected the model to the broader literature on social exclusion. Critics ask how closely brief laboratory ostracism resembles real long-term exclusion and whether the four needs can be measured as distinct.
FAQ
- What is the temporal need-threat model in simple terms?
- Being ignored and left out shakes your sense of belonging, self-worth, control and existence all at once, leading to immediate hurt, attempts to recover and, over time, resignation.
- What is Cyberball?
- An experimental task in which on-screen players toss a ball and then stop passing it to the participant, creating a brief experience of ostracism.
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References
- Williams, K. D. (2001). Ostracism: The Power of Silence. New York: Guilford Press. The book that first organized research on ostracism.
- Williams, K. D. (2009). Ostracism: A temporal need-threat model. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 41, 275–314. The founding statement of the temporal need-threat model.
- Williams, K. D. (2007). Ostracism. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 425–452. A broad review of ostracism research.
- Williams, K. D., Cheung, C. K. T., & Choi, W. (2000). Cyberostracism: Effects of being ignored over the Internet. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 79(5), 748–762. Introduces the Cyberball paradigm.
- Eisenberger, N. I., Lieberman, M. D., & Williams, K. D. (2003). Does rejection hurt? An fMRI study of social exclusion. Science, 302(5643), 290–292. fMRI evidence that exclusion engages pain-related regions.
- Zadro, L., Williams, K. D., & Richardson, R. (2004). How low can you go? Ostracism by a computer is sufficient to lower self-reported levels of belonging, control, self-esteem, and meaningful existence. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 40(4), 560–567. Even ostracism by a computer lowers fundamental needs.
- Hartgerink, C. H. J., van Beest, I., Wicherts, J. M., & Williams, K. D. (2015). The ordinal effects of ostracism: A meta-analysis of 120 Cyberball studies. PLoS ONE, 10(5), e0127002. Meta-analysis of 120 Cyberball studies.