Separation anxiety and the disorder
Separation anxiety typically appears around 8 months and fades over early childhood; attachment theory sees it as a sign of bonding. Separation anxiety disorder is diagnosed when fear is excessive for developmental level, lasts at least 4 weeks in children (typically 6 months in adults) and impairs daily life.
Helping children
Use brief, predictable goodbyes, gradual separation and acknowledge feelings. CBT involving parents is an effective treatment for persistent cases.
Where to get help
📌 At a glance
- Korea
- 109 (suicide prevention), 1577-0199 (mental health crisis)
- US
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
- UK/Ireland
- Samaritans 116 123
- Emergency
- Local emergency number
This article is general information, not a diagnosis or medical advice. If you are concerned, please consult a qualified health professional.
Frequently asked questions
- Is it normal for babies to cry when parents leave?
- Yes, usually; it becomes a concern when excessive and long-lasting.
- Can adults have separation anxiety disorder?
- Yes, DSM-5-TR recognises it in adults.
References
- American Psychiatric Association. (2022). DSM-5-TR (separation anxiety disorder).
- Bowlby, J. (1973). Attachment and loss: Vol. 2. Separation: Anxiety and anger. Basic Books.
- Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of attachment. Erlbaum.